Practicing generosity in community creates change

Practicing generosity in community creates change

Last week, Annie led us in a wonderfully rich evening on the second mindfulness training: Generosity. As Thich Nhat Hanh wrote: “The Second Precept is a deep practice. We speak of time, energy, and material resources, but time is not only for energy and material resources. Time is for being with others -- being with a dying person or with someone who is suffering.” When we give our full attention to a person, a community, a cause, we are practicing generosity. And that generosity can effect change on several dimensions at the same time - one of the many fruits of interbeing.

For the month of May, we will explore the theme, practicing generosity, from several different perspectives. This is part of OHMC’s response to the global pandemic. Our hope is that by practicing generosity as individuals and as a community, and by learning about how our practice affects us, we can nourish ourselves, each other and the larger society of which we’re a part.

This week, we are focusing on generosity as it relates to interbeing and community. It is easy, when one thinks about generosity, to jump to the “I”. We would like to move to the “we” - the we of our community here at OHMC…

I saw you fall, so I'm helping: Generosity and the 2nd mindfulness training

I saw you fall, so I'm helping: Generosity and the 2nd mindfulness training

Dear Friends,

This week Annie will facilitate, and we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings. We will focus our discussion on the Second Mindfulness Training, True Happiness.

True Happiness

Aware of the suffering caused by exploitation, social injustice, stealing, and oppression, I am committed to practicing generosity in my thinking, speaking, and acting. I am determined not to steal and not to possess anything that should belong to others; and I will share my time, energy, and material resources with those who are in need.

I will practice looking deeply to see that the happiness and suffering of others are not separate from my own happiness and suffering; that true happiness is not possible without understanding and compassion; and that running after wealth, fame, power and sensual pleasures can bring much suffering and despair.

I am aware that happiness depends on my mental attitude and not on external conditions, and that I can live happily in the present moment simply by remembering that I already have more than enough conditions to be happy. I am committed to practicing Right Livelihood so that I can help reduce the suffering of living beings on Earth and reverse the process of global warming.

A Very Special Monday Live with Monastics 

A Very Special Monday Live with Monastics 

Dear Friends,

This week we are honored to be joined by one or more of the monastics from Plum Village and Deer Park Monasteries. Brother Chân Pháp Lai (his name translates to Coming of the Dharma) will lead us in our dharma topic.

We will enjoy our usual guided meditation and walking meditation periods (led by Annie), after which Brother Chân Pháp Lai will share whatever teachings he feels inspired to share with us.

We hope you will be able to join us for this talk! Click to read more…

Avalokiteshvara’s Ubiquitous Energy of Compassion

Avalokiteshvara’s Ubiquitous Energy of Compassion

Dear Friends,

The teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh that speak most to my heart are those that remind me of an experience I had with one of my students.

This student was incarcerated between the ages of 14 and 17 years old, and I corresponded with him throughout his sentence.

The decision to continue our teacher-student relationship was not easy for me since that school year I was serving a dual administrator/teacher role and was due to a big promotion. My principal was not happy when I opted to testify in court when I was subpoenaed and was furious when she found out that I was corresponding with my student without letting her know.

This was my chance to decide to either treat this young man as ”someone else’s child” or as if he could have been my own. The teacher in me saw his redeeming qualities, his capacity for Buddhahood. This experience and my continued relationship with this young man for the last 12 years have deeply influenced my dedication to restorative justice and advocacy for youth.

What Have We Learned From Stopping?

What Have We Learned From Stopping?

Dear friends,

Tonight we will follow on the theme that Susie so beautifully offered last week. We will continue to use our breath to bring us calm, to bring us stability. Breath is the link that brings our body and mind together. By calming the mind, we calm the body and by calming the body, we calm the mind. As Thay often reminds us, breathing is our anchor. I’m reminded that breathing is an object of meditation that I can use on and off the cushion. It only takes me a minute to stop and do one or two slow, deep breaths. So simple, yet so calming, grounding. Too beneficial to only use on the cushion!

We will start the evening with a guided meditation from Plum Village that uses our breath as a support to deepen our connection to Mother Earth. I enjoyed it very much and hope you will too!

Our 20 year old daughter who’s studying in London was the first In our family to shelter in place. Her concern for us, as well as the lessons learned in Europe, led my ‘cluster’ here in DC to begin staying home earlier than locally mandated. I am grateful that we are all working hard to follow the guidance to stay home and to stay safe as being the best practices to protect ourselves, our families and our larger community. At the same time, I am deeply aware of those working in essential services who are helping others, at risk to themselves. Deep gratitude.

Calm and Centered — Using breath to survive the challenges

Calm and Centered — Using breath to survive the challenges

Everyday I am a different person. Each experience and thought is a learning moment for me to grow and change and be challenged to evolve in this body and mind experience.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve listened to the news each morning. And one day I didn’t. And I was happy. I realized all that I am grateful for. I returned to my practice of breathing, and noticed the positive outcomes of breathing — calm & centered. Whether in the midst of a pandemic or in my normal life, I always have the choice to enjoy my breath.


I read a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh, and it reminded me of something that happened when I was in my 20’s.

Thay said, “When the crowded Vietnamese refugee boats met with storms or pirates, if everyone panicked all would be lost. But if even one person on the boat remained calm and centered, it was enough. It showed the way for everyone to survive.”

Taking care of our feelings amidst the turbulence of COVID-19

Taking care of our feelings amidst the turbulence of COVID-19

We are all suffering right now, and none of us know how the future will unfold.

As a mammal in a time of great uncertainty, swimming in a 24/7 news cycle, I am tempted to focus on my worries and fears. There’s a part of me that’s convinced that, if I can just read enough articles from enough legitimate sources, I’ll be better prepared, better able to take care of my family, friends and those in need. For a few days, I identified with that part and became addicted to the news before realizing, thankfully, that this was a form of “unmindful consumption” and made things worse: I felt more isolated and drawn toward a “fortress mentality” that ran counter to my core.

Greeting Fear with Mindfulness

Greeting Fear with Mindfulness

This Monday night we are making some changes to the format of our ‘typical’ Sangha in acknowledgment of concerns surrounding group gatherings and the Coronavirus. Rather than just taking a brief hiatus we have decided to take our Sangha online and to convene via video conference using Zoom (Instructions as to how to join are available below but you can do this either via computer or phone). The format for the evening will be the same as usual and comprise a guided relaxation meditation, followed by mindful movements (rather than the usual walking meditation), followed by a second shorter sitting meditation. We will then have 45 minutes for dharma sharing.

There is no registration required, just click here for the details on how to join us online.

The topic for this week's sharing was scheduled to be one the Five Mindfulness Trainings, but we have decided to push this back later into the month. Rather we thought it timely to revisit the issue of uncertainty and calming the fearful mind. This particular topic is one which has been explored over the millennia by buddhist practitioners and has been widely written about by Thay. Infact Thay wrote a book specifically on this issue to address the post 9/11 realities and as a response to fear of terrorism. One of Thay’s best known quotes on the subject is:

“The only way to ease our fear and be truly happy is to acknowledge our fear and look deeply at its source. Instead of trying to escape from our fear, we can invite it up to our awareness and look at it clearly and deeply.”

Thích Nhất Hạnh, Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm

Celebrate Our New Space and Our Sangha, Starting at 6:15pm

Celebrate Our New Space and Our Sangha, Starting at 6:15pm

Please join us for a special evening on Monday night, when we will celebrate our beautiful, new space and our precious sangha.  At 6:15, we’ll start with social time and snacks. At 7pm, we will shift to the formal part of the evening, which Annie will facilitate. We will have a short sit and a ceremony, where we will formally welcome the space, followed by a second sit and dharma sharing, which will end at 8:30. You are welcome to join us for any part of the evening or for its entirety. 

To help us plan, please:

(i) RSVP by COB Sunday (acceptances only) so that we get a headcount for the evening (please RSVP here)

(ii) volunteer if you’d like to help with set up, clean up or bring a specific item (please sign up on the google doc here)

Right now is a wonderful opportunity to pause and reflect on our sangha. In Creating True Peace Thich Nhat Hanh writes:

“If we are a drop of water and we try to get to the ocean as only an individual drop, we will surely evaporate along the way. To arrive at the ocean, you must go as a river. The sangha is your river. In our daily practice, we learn how to be a part of this river. We learn how to look with sangha eyes, how to walk with sangha feet, how to feel with a sangha heart. We have to train ourselves to see the happiness of our community as our own happiness and to see the difficulties of our community as our own difficulties. Once we are able to do this, we will suffer much less. We will feel stronger and more joyful.

The Joy of Listening to the Bell

The Joy of Listening to the Bell

Dear Friends,

We will offer sitting meditation and walking meditation, and during our second sitting meditation, we will enjoy the Great Bell Chant to help us relax our bodies and minds.

After the meditation period, we will listen to Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay) giving a talk about listening to the bell as the reflection of the voice of the Buddha bringing us back to the present moment.

The talk we will listen to is HERE. We will begin listening around minute 15:00.

"The Buddha said there is a beautiful safe island within yourself in which you can take refuge. And every time you hear the bell you go back to the island within and take refuge and that island is in your heart. In that island you can find yourself. You can find your ancestors, spiritual ancestors and blood ancestors. You'll find whatever you want to find." -- Thich Nhat Nanh

Touching the Earth: antidote to alienation, despair, and separation

Touching the Earth:  antidote to alienation, despair, and separation

Dear Thay, dear sangha,

This Monday night following sitting and walking meditation, we will enjoy a guided meditation practice. I am delighted to share a 1990’s version of Plum Village’s Three Touchings of the Earth. A bow of gratitude to Mitchell at Stillwater for sharing this version. Click here for the 3 Touchings

I was struck by the depth of the commentary that Thay/Thich Nhat Hanh expressed in his introduction. I include some excerpts of this commentary at the bottom of this reading.

Third Mindfulness Training: True Love

Third Mindfulness Training: True Love

Dear Friends,

Tonight we have the opportunity to reflect on the Third Mindfulness Training, True Love:

Every time I read this training, I wish I had internalized it when I was in my 20s! Seriously, how mindful was I about sexual desire, relationships, and commitment when I was young? Although I did not hop from one relationship to another lightly, I was certainly more driven by emotions and hormones than by the practice of True Love. So today, I want to share with you a personal story. A story about True Love that went unrecognized and was trashed many years ago. Maybe you can relate to my story.

Diving Deeper into ARISE (Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity)

Diving Deeper into ARISE (Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity)

Dear Friends,⁣

Please come join us Monday to practice mindfulness. We will watch or listen to another portion of the ARISE webinar.⁣ Camille will facilitate, and she shares her topic here:⁣

“I often feel angry and lost when I see how we have exacerbated oppression and continue to marginalize individuals. I wonder if I am doing enough in advocating for social justice and social equity or if I am adding to what our speaker calls ‘repeating what has been happening for centuries’.⁣

“So why then do I and others sit with this discomfort without actively engaging in changing our systems, structures, and even our privileges. I am hoping by working and making changes - with others, our mindfulness community, and the Dharma, we can change the situation as Thay suggests ‘without engaging in partisan conflicts’ but by engaging in compassionate ways to heal.⁣..

Surrendering to the Present Moment in Order to Heal

Surrendering to the Present Moment in Order to Heal

We will listen to part of a talk by Thay Thich Nhật Hanh: Surrender Yourself to the Present Moment, 2004. You can access the full talk here.

In this talk, Thay shares about the importance of trusting our in-breath, our mindful steps, and our body to heal us. By surrendering to the present moment, we are ale to heal. He says:

Each step is a healer. And when you make a step like that, you don't have to struggle at all because making a step is not an act of struggling, an act of fighting, it is total surrendering. You surrender yourself to the present moment. You surrender yourself to the power of healing that is inherent in your body and in your consciousness."

He also reminds of the power of rest. When resting we "authorize our body to heal." The talk is full of instructions and reminders focused on the basic practice of stopping (samatha) in order to allow for healing to occur.

On Monday, will enjoy a silent sitting meditation, a walking meditation, and then a guided. restful meditation. After that, we will listen to 10-15 minutes of Thay's talk, and then have time to share what we heard and how we respond to the teaching as a community. Sharing is always optional. 

The Art of Mindful Living...Can Be Difficult

The Art of Mindful Living...Can Be Difficult

This Monday, we will build on last week’s exploration of the 2nd Mindfulness Training, True Happiness.    We will investigate those moments when we did/did not feel happy and reflect on how we behaved as a result of these feelings.

Last week, I experienced a roller coaster of emotions - from exquisite happiness of being outdoors with my family in the snowy mountains of Colorado - to making harsh judgements about the very same family and wishing they were different from how I view them as being.

While the roller coaster felt extreme at the time, I now see that it is more normal that I’d like to admit.   For someone who has been practicing mindfulness for a long time, this was a “bitter awakening”, as Anam Thubten calls those powerful moments that invite us to wake up.

The Second Mindfulness Training: True Happiness

The Second Mindfulness Training: True Happiness

This coming Monday, after sitting and walking mindfully together, we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings – our guidelines for an ethical life. This month, we will focus on the Second Mindfulness Training: True Happiness.

In  other lineages, the title of this training is simply “Not Stealing.” This is where one can appreciate Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom and skillful kindness: Instead of telling us what not to do, Thay (as his students call him) very gently invites us to practice the opposite of stealing, which is practicing generosity in its many forms, generosity being the root of true happiness.

In his book The Mindfulness Survival Kit, Thay writes:

The Second Mindfulness Training is about taking only what is freely given and treating the environment with care. It is about learning to share material goods, time and energy with those who are in need. The aim of this training is to end craving. Because of our craving for natural resources, because of the craving of the market for us to consume its goods, governments don't hesitate to bring an army to invade another country and end countless lives. Because of this craving, we allow poverty and hunger to exist, afraid we won't have enough for ourselves if everyone has what they need. Craving leads to the destruction of the environment and the pollution of water, the soil and the air.

Resolving Conflicts However Small

Resolving Conflicts However Small

Dear Friends,

As we know, the world is facing many conflicts right now - some immediate and large - like a potential war with Iran, or climate crises, and some less immediate and more personal - like a pending presidential impeachment. And most of us have conflicts, small and large, in our own lives with family, co-workers, friends, and acquaintances. 

In the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings of the Order of Interbeing (a community of monastics and lay people, students of Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay), who have committed to living their lives in accord with the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings, a distillation of the Bodhisattva teachings of Mahayana Buddhism, it says this about conflict:

We will take responsibility for the ways we may have contributed to the conflict and keep communication open. We will not behave as a victim but be active in finding ways to reconcile and resolve all conflicts however small.

Here's how I distilled Thay's teaching:

  • take responsibility for our own actions that helped lead to the conflict

  • don't shut down - keep communication open even if we are angry

  • don't think the other person is the only one at fault and we are victim

  • continue looking for solutions of all conflicts, don't give up

  • don't ignore or sweep small conflicts under the rug

I have been re-reading an awesome book on conflict, Conflict Unraveled: Fixing Problems at Work and in Families by Andra Medea. It lays out a matrix of levels of conflict and how they escalate from Level 1: Problem Solving to Level 2: Power Plays and Psychological Warfare then to Level 3:Blind Behavior/ unconscious/ addictive behavior, and eventually to Level 4: Tyranny. (I've included details from the book about each level at the bottom of this email.)

What does it mean to Awaken through Race, Intersectionality and Social Justice using the Dharma - Part 2

What does it mean to Awaken through Race, Intersectionality and Social Justice using the Dharma - Part 2

Dear Friends,

This week Andy & Annie will co-facilitate.

On December 16 at sangha, we watched a section of the first ARISE webinar (click here to access full recording of the webinar) on dharma and social justice. 

Who is ARISE? 
ARISE sangha - Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity - is made of practitioners and monastics who come together to heal the wounds of racial injustice and social inequity, beginning with looking deeply within ourselves and using the energy of compassion, understanding, and love in action. Part of their mission is to guide those of us in the larger community in how to do this work as well.

In November, ARISE offered their first webinar (click here to watch.) This Monday, we will watch or listen to another portion of the webinar. 

In the fourteen mindfulness trainings, Thay writes:

Aware that the essence and aim of a Sangha is the practice of understanding and compassion, we are determined not to use the Buddhist community for personal gain or profit or transform our community into a political instrument. A spiritual community should, however, take a clear stand against oppression and injustice and should strive to change the situation without engaging in partisan conflicts.

Loving Speech and Deep Listening

Loving Speech and Deep Listening

Dear Sangha, Dear Friends: 

What an honor to be facilitating our Sangha on the very last day of 2019! Thank you for allowing me to hold space for all of us. I believe it is important to enter the New Year with intention, while honoring all that has brought us to the end of another year of life on Earth. This is why, every December, I create two separate family glass jars: one to remember our blessings and what we are grateful for, and one to intentionally invite in new experiences and/or attitudes for the New Year. I generally keep my glass jars in a visible place and, occasionally, I open them and read the tiny folded notes inside. They remind me to be present, intentional and conscious because, as my Mom often says: Where Attention Goes, Energy Flows. So true, don’t you think? 

Cows

Cows

Photo by Henrik Hjortshøj 

With the holidays all but upon us and the end of the year / decade approaching this Monday we plan on having a seasonal sangha gathering where we get to enjoy a little more time than usual enjoying each other’s company. Rather than the usual two ‘sits’ and a walking meditation we will ‘sit’ just once and then spend time sharing food and dharma. With many folks headed out of town, and others having guests visiting we expect this to be a nice small group evening. 

In terms of a dharma sharing I thought it might be fun to ponder on a favorite story shared by Thay:

One day the Buddha was sitting with his monks in the woods. They had just finished their mindful lunch and were about to start a question and answer session. A peasant passed by and asked the Buddha, “Dear monk, have you seen my cows passing by here?”

The Buddha said, “What cows?”