As a child I learned to jump into action whenever needed, and I sometimes still act before thinking deeply. As a student of Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay), I learned that how I act is as important as the action itself.

The Bodhisattva of Great Action, Samathabhadra, has offered us a guide for what it means to act wisely. One of the things I learn from Samanthabhadra is that to act skillfully, we must first understand the situation.

In a Q&A session with Thay many years ago, I asked how I could help someone in my life who I felt was behaving in a harmful way. Thay's answer was to go back to my own practice, to become fresher, to stop thinking that I was the healthy one and that he was the unhealthy one, understand the roots of my loved ones suffering, and then I would know what to do. Focusing on my own practice and developing a deeper understanding of the situation was needed before any truly skillful action could be taken…

One of my favorite sentences in our sangha’s new Engaged Mindfulness Vision Statement is “Mindfulness is the awareness and transformation of not only our own suffering, but of the suffering around us.” This summarizes what engaged mindfulness means to me as well as the efforts of our Engaged Mindfulness Working Group to expand the mindfulness possibilities of our sangha. In the month of October, which our sangha is dedicating to engaged mindfulness, I am grateful that I feel ready to reach out and share the peace that I derive from my mindfulness practice.

In a month that is also dedicated to National Domestic Violence Awareness, I have decided to support Community Family Life Services (CFLS). CFLS assists formerly incarcerated women and their families, many of whom have suffered different forms of abuse. I would like to explain why I have chosen to support this organization by describing the connection I perceive between engaged mindfulness and the interbeing among all living creatures. I will focus in particular on the lessons I have learned from elephants.

On Monday night we will explore our attitudes, experiences and feelings around generosity as a lead-in to our month-long theme for October: Engaged Mindfulness. October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month in the USA. Over the last few months, our engaged mindfulness working group has been learning about and working with an organization that supports incarcerated women, many of whom have been victims of different forms of domestic violence. In October we’ll have the opportunity to look deeply at our practice of engaged mindfulness as individuals, as a community and at the work of CFLS through multiple Dharma doors.

For now, we’ll take a BIG step back and invite you to reflect on your experiences with generosity - from childhood through the present day - and whether/how these have changed as you practiced mindfulness.

When I (Marie) explored these, I realized that the experiences of my childhood and young/middle aged adulthood left a seemingly indelible imprint: caring for others was generous and good whereas caring for myself was selfish and bad. So simple!

Monday night we have the gift and opportunity to recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings together. We will explore more deeply the 4th training on Loving Speech & Compassionate Listening. Of the five trainings, this one gives me the most challenges, day after day, year after year. The current times are as deeply divided and as toxic as any we have witnessed. After last year, I didn’t think it could get worse. I was encouraged after listening to Thich Nhat Hanh/Thay’s short teaching on Loving Speech & Compassion. He shares a three day practice challenge aimed to expand our capacity to begin the healing process through deep listening.

I find I try to shield myself from taking in too much news, too often, as it seems to reinforce all the great divides and suffering in the world. And it spills over into all aspects of my life. I lack the patience to listen deeply to others, even those who are closest to me. I have to stop and remind myself that deep listening requires me to first be ‘mindful of compassion’. I am listening to try to help, to try to relieve the suffering of the person who stands in front of me or who may be on the phone. I have to push aside my other agendas and projects and focus on how I can help…

Being in the present moment for me is to be in touch with everything around me. Whether being in touch with my body, my breath, the earth and all living beings, or even the "mud" as our teacher Thay would say - it is recognizing reality in the present moment. For me this is one of the true teachings of this practice of mindfulness and what I work towards in my personal practice, and can often be very difficult for me.

My understanding of reality lately is focused too much on worrying about the future and not enough being in the present moment. I have often lost touch with my body in the present moment in my busyness of thinking about the future. My worry becomes my suffering and I am caught in that suffering and I am not helping myself and I am not available to others. My partner, who had a bad accident at the beginning of this year, together with a failing business, is lately often caught in the past with regret and anger, and has a hard time enjoying the present.

Increasing polarization over the last couple decades has made it harder for us to find common ground with others because we believe we are right and others are wrong. We get into the habit of passing harsh judgment on anyone who doesn’t think like us, whether Republicans, Democrats, pro- or anti-Trump, Liberals, Conservatives, Anti-vaxxers, Vaccine-hesitant people, Vaccine-pushers, etc.

What would happen if we choose to find common ground instead?

Water, mainly natural bodies of water, are anxiety producing for me. When I was little, I got a stomach ache, and resisted every time I had to prepare for my swim lesson.

Eventually I became a confident swimmer. And as a teenager, I would stay in the ocean for hours when I visited my grandmother.

On our camping trip last weekend, we went canoeing in a creek with "No Swimming" postings. Our 85 pound muscular and determined dog was in the canoe, and I was holding him while my husband and son rowed. I could feel my dog’s anxiety, heart racing, panting, shifting his weight. As we rebalanced against his shifts, I knew I was anxious too. Maybe if I was less anxious, he would feel calmer. I did some mindful breathing, and soon we headed back for shore.

What’s the worst that could happen?

The dog jumps in the creek. We swim him to shore as there would be no way of getting him back in the boat. Actually, there are many more dire scenarios including capsizing, injury, concussion, drowning, death.

The news shows us the cruelty, injustice, terror close by and in the distance. We have more anxiety and stress because we know how badly things can go. How much can we control by worrying? What can we do with our feelings of anxiety and stress? Being mindful about what I have the power to affect versus accepting what I can’t change is helping me find a balance. I know if I take a breath and sort through my thoughts, I can make a conscious choice of how to handle my anxiety…

Dear Thay, Dear friends,

We will start the evening with a guided meditation to settle our bodies and prepare for reading the Five Mindfulness Trainings.

After our recitation, we will focus our attention on the Third Mindfulness Training: “True Love” (in the traditional version) and “Cherishment as True Love” (in the ARISE version). Below, you will find both Trainings.

As I write these words, I’m sitting on my brother’s porch in Wilmington, North Carolina - a place I have visited for twenty years but only recently learned of its’ coup d’etat, wherein white supremacists overthrew a US government.

Sometimes I wonder if I am addicted to my comfort. I know I generally have plenty of comfort in my life - compared to many others on this planet and even compared to my younger self. I see myself using my comfort to sidestep dukkha (discomfort or dissatisfaction) because it seems like I'll be happier if I keep myself comfortable. But that's not exactly what the practice teaches us.

The first teaching that the Buddha gave after his enlightenment, the first of the Four Noble Truths, says that dukkha is simply part of life. Stuff happens that we don't like, even when our lives appear to be relatively comfortable from the outside.

How do we handle those moments of challenge? Are we able to stay present for them or do we distract ourselves with our comforts. And, does it even matter?

Building on last week’s theme of Right/Wise Effort on the Buddha’s Eight-fold path, I invite you to explore more deeply what you are doing to enjoy your time here on the planet. I ask myself if the activities I engage in and the effort I give them are aiding or hindering me. Am I gaining greater awareness to reach a longer term objective: to transform my mind, my heart and my life/situation? As the current pandemic tosses and turns us and our world, I feel the calling to reflect on the way forward. Sometimes it feels so overwhelming. Yet when I’m able to come back to the present moment, it’s much easier to let the sounds of the birds, the morning light, and the blue sky help me to anchor my day. And then I can move forward, one day at a time.

One of the central tenets of Buddhism is known as The Noble Eight Fold Path.

1. Right View

2. Right Resolve

3. Right Speech

4. RIght Action

5. Right Livelihood

6. Right Effort

7. Right Mindfulness

8. Right Concentration

For this week's dharma sharing I thought I would focus on the sixth of the eight -- Right Effort. Endeavoring to give rise to skillful thoughts, words, and deeds and renouncing unskillful ones. Right effort can be viewed as something akin to the sweet spot between gritted teeth determination and relaxation that veers into daydreaming.

Right effort involves working towards healthy states of mind and body mind as well as learning to have the grace to accept and submit to what cannot be changed. In other words learning to let go of what is unhealthy or unhelpful.

Since I'm on vacation this week, I thought we might consider the benefits of being lazy. This is a photo of Lake Michigan where we have are being very lazy.

In my household growing up, being lazy was an insult. If we kids were ever caught playing or reading when there was work to be done, we were called a ""lazy bum" and immediately put to work.

On my first retreat with Thich Nhat Hanh, I learned about the "lazy day". During each week of each retreat I've ever been on, there has been one day set aside as a lazy day. On lazy days we don't have a schedule and we do whatever brings us joy. It sounds good, but it can be challenging for me!

I often feel some tension in my body when I'm not doing something or attending to something. In addition to Fear of Missing out (FOMO) I think I also have Fear of Not Doing Something (FONDS). So being on vacation is good practice for me.

For me, FONDS is driven by the misperception that I am separate from others and that if I don't hurry up and do something, things will fall apart…

This week Magda will facilitate about how the universal value of humility can foster

ancestral and spiritual connections that help us heal, renew and inter-be.

Minutes after I found out that my father had died, I sat on the rich humus of our backyard. There, among the many tropical trees that he and my mom had lovingly planted, I built him a temple out of soil, roots and branches. There were so many roots and branches surrounding me, as if they were all working to braid a cradle of support for me in return for my father’s many years tending them.

Touching the earth, I took refuge in it. Receiving what Thich Nhat Hanh refers to as the earth’s solid and inclusive energy, I calmed down and began my healing process. With an intense feeling of grief and belonging, I started anew.

At the age of 17, sitting on the humus, I made my pledge: my father’s short life would be prolonged through mine, a life lived by the values he taught me.

Dear friends,

Camille will be facilitating this Monday night July 12 with special guest Joe Reilly. We are very happy to welcome Joe to sangha to share his music and mindfulness practice. He will be sharing his music and journey with us complete with song sheets to sing along which you are welcome to print or have on your screen at sangha. You are invited to come and practice and sing with us.

Dear OHMC Friends,

In 1983, I attended the funeral of an aged relative. There, I had the opportunity to talk with her son, who was then 74 years old. I was curious about the everyday details of his early life: where they lived, what they ate, when they spoke Yiddish, when they spoke English. However, he only wanted to talk about one thing — that his mother and father always favored his older sister. She got the support. She got the praise. He got none of it. They were always undercutting him, belittling him, angry at him.

Though we didn’t talk about it that day, I already knew some “facts” about him. In his twenties he met a woman his parents did not approve of, eloped, moved far away to her home town, and lived a seemingly comfortable life, raising four children. I also knew he rarely wrote, talked with, or visited his parents and siblings.

I was shaken by what he told me — partly because of the vehemence of his resentment towards his parents and how it seemed to overwhelm all other memories, and partly because I knew I had that seed of resentment in me as well, though I believed that mine was not so easily exposed.

Dear friends,

This week we will have a special guest on Monday night.

Melina Bondy, a former monastic who was ordained by Thich Nhat Hanh and has now returned to lay life (see her bio below) will give a short Dharma talk about the Four Noble Truths in daily life: from ideas to action.

Melina writes “the Four Noble Truths can be seen as a list of ideas to believe in but they are meant to be actions to apply in all aspects of life. We'll look at core terms in this teaching, how they show up in our lives and ways to apply this practice on and off the cushion.

Those who are interested are welcome to read about the Four Noble Truths here and/or the sutra we will refer to (see below), though this is not necessary."

This Monday, Annie will facilitate. After meditation, we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings together and then focus on the First Mindfulness Training, Reverence for Life.

Reverence For Life
Aware of the suffering caused by the destruction of life, I am committed to cultivating the insight of interbeing and compassion and learning ways to protect the lives of people, animals, plants, and minerals. I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill, and not to support any act of killing in the world, in my thinking, or in my way of life. Seeing that harmful actions arise from anger, fear, greed, and intolerance, which in turn come from dualistic and discriminative thinking, I will cultivate openness, non-discrimination, and non-attachment to views in order to transform violence, fanaticism, and dogmatism in myself and in the world.

When I was about 10 years old, we took a family trip to New Orleans. After dinner at a restaurant, our parents decided to take us all (Mom, Dad, Grandma, and four kids) down the very racy Bourbon Street. It was dark and when we came around the corner, we encountered a fight starting at the bus stop.

We all wanted to keep walking -- except my mom. She believed that one of the men, both very drunk, was getting bullied, and she had to step in. She told the other man, several times, to stop it. I can't tell you what happened next because Dad, Grandma and we four kids took off across the street to safety. Mom followed minutes later. My mom's brief action showed me that courageous immediate direct action is one way to protect life.

My mom may have prevented someone from being seriously hurt or killed and another person from becoming a perpetrator that night.

Last week I was moved by the dharma sharing provided by our guest Barbara Newell. It led me to thinking of similar moments in our lives when a low point is reached and we feel in some way empty with nothing more to give.

This could have to do with a relationship, a job, or some other life situation. I am very grateful that I have not found myself in such situations very often and when I have, I have had the resources and support to make it through. In almost all cases, the calamitous scenarios I had running through my head never came to pass. If something bad did occur, I was able to get through it, and it was less bad than I had imagined…

Dear friends,

This week we will enjoy a guest facilitator for our Monday evening meditation!

Barabara Newell, a former monastic at Plum Village, spent twelve years as a Buddhist nun in the community learning directly from Thich Nhat Hanh. Her full bio is below.

On Monday night, after our meditation period, Barbara will offer a Question and Answer session about the practice and teachings.

We would love to hear some of your questions in advance (which will help Barbara plan her time), so please send questions for Barbara to info@openingheartmindfulness.org before Monday. There will also be time to receive questions "live" on Monday evening.

Monday evening we will share the five Earth Touchings together. The touchings of the Earth are a Buddhist tradition where we bow down and surrender to the earth. We join body, mind, and breath to return to the Earth and to all our ancestors knowing that we are not alone. We are in the Earth and all our ancestors, and they are in us. When we touch the earth we breathe in her energy, strength, and stability and when we breathe out we release our grief and suffering that we have experienced collectively.

On Monday we will practice the ARISE (Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity) earth touchings which are an adaptation of the Plum Village Earth Touchings. The ARISE sangha is a "community of mindfulness practitioners and monastics who come together to heal the wounds of racial injustice and social inequity, beginning with looking deeply within ourselves and using the energy of compassion, understanding, and love in action."